As teenagers, we’re all living in the bubble that dating is all love and galore. Your mum was probably the one dropping you off to dates and you had no idea what you were really in for. By your 20s, you think that this is it! This is when all your relationships will be sorted out. If anything, it would at least be fun with the new found freedom! Hate to break it to you. But it’s nothing like that!
Real life isn’t a romantic comedy!
You might think that the first time you’ll meet will feel like a scene from a rom-com. Reality is that you’ll probably meet via a dating app. Even though there is absolutely nothing wrong with finding a date through Tinder or any other app. We often tend to picture it go down a lot more differently. You expect that you’ll meet them at a bar or a party, across a crowded room with fate bringing the two of you together. Sorry, but life isn’t a rom-com. You’re probably going to have to stick to finding a semi-decent guy through a dating app.
Your first date isn’t going to be a candle lit dinner.
You might think that your first date will involve a candle-lit dinner. Chances are that you guys will meet at a crowded bar, struggling to hear each other. First dates are usually some place casual, which sounds fair enough. However, you’re probably expecting it to be at least a tad bit romantic. Do your research before choosing the location. In case you’re letting your date decide, here’s to hoping that they don’t choose a dodgy place with tables that reek of beer.
First dates are super awkward
You might think you’ll find the one and have immediate chemistry with them. Sorry fam, but your first date is probably going to be super awkward. Even if you find someone you’re going to want to see again, it’s guaranteed that the first encounter will be quite awkward. You’ll both try and hide your true colours in an attempt to impress each – so it’ll look a bit forced. Second dates are a lot better though! All you need to do is push through the first date. Unless you meet someone you have absolutely nothing in common. It won’t just be awkward but painfully boring too!
Half the time you’ll be completely clueless at what’s really going on
The transition from dating to being in a relationship does not happen seamlessly. Even if you’ve gone out on a few dates, the struggle of that dating limbo is real. You’re playing it cool because you don’t want to seem like you have no chill. So, the million questions you have about your relationship status will be buried down.
It’s nowhere near easy!
It’s tough dating people who aren’t right for you and there’s zero hope. And it’s not that simple. However, it will be a lot easier when you find someone you would actually ship for.